The Gentleman Dom – Ramblings on Old World Values

Perceptions from a Daddy Dom

Perceptions from a Daddy Dom are essays, instruction pieces, and sometimes rants. I write and even text, like I talk in real life and I speak from the heart. I offer my opinions and insights that I have gained from fifteen years of experience and through trial and error. If I offer insight, it is from the mindset of my Dominant philosophy, which is primarily that of Daddy Dom. I use the pronouns I am comfortable with, but please swap your pronouns where you feel comfortable. The lifestyle welcomes all of you. Welcome to Wonderland.

It is said that the true alpha male does not need to assert their Dominance. He doesn’t resort to force or raise his voice in threatening tones. He exudes confidence, even when he’s not. He exercises natural authority, but doesn’t abuse it. He uses his strength to protect and support those around him, in and outside of the lifestyle. He doesn’t pick fights, but will choose his battles. The true alpha male is a gentleman. 

In today’s modern times, there is a lot of value in adherence to old traditions. Being raised as a Southern gentleman, I remember many of the finer details of courtship, how a man is supposed to act, but I can barely bother to remember which fork is which. In these values of how a man is supposed to act and behave, I find comfort even today and it’s in some values we’re going to speak to today. 

In my Dominance, the structure I provide extends a lot into the level of care I provide for my sub, and I’m not even talking about rules or contract. Through my actions and my words, I strive to show her that she is important to me while safeguarding her well-being both physically and mentally. I demonstrate this through courtesy. By opening the door for her to the restaurant, shop, or even the car door, I am expressing to her that she’s worthy of effort. It isn’t some old tradition I’m observing by differing to her gender as the “weaker” sex, but instead validating that she is valuable and worthy of my respect.

Restraint is a chivalric value I exercise in my Dominance. It is easy to lose oneself in punishments, especially when you’re a sadist. The tools that I have cultivated over the years in terms of corporal and mental punishments are most decadent, but it is equally important to endeavor a consistent approach in matching the infraction to the punishment. A kind hand is sometimes needed more than a firm hand. There will be times when she breaks a rule and knows you are disappointed. That in and of itself is a devastating punishment for most subs. Instead of drawing the most intricate of lines on her backside with a cane, exercise restraint and take the psychological approach. Have her kneel. Talk with her and reinforce why what was violated is important and offer words of encouragement and then, if needed, use the firm hand.

Honor and integrity is something I think everyone can benefit from, but for the purpose of this essay, we’ll again twist it to our purpose. With integrity, keep I promises to my submissive. Your word should be as stone, solid in purpose and bond. Be consistent. If you say you’re going to do a thing, do it. Follow through. My words to her matter and the damage done by a broken promise can shatter my pillar of trust. Keep your word to her. Honor your contract. Substantiate her worth and value by maintaining your dedication and resolve to your dynamic. 

Treat her with respect. She’s your submissive, not a doormat, unless her kink is to be used as furniture and then by all means, walk all over her. I will show her respect by listening to her feelings and thoughts and act accordingly. Actually listen to her. She’s coming to you for guidance. Take her by the hand and lead. Observe her behaviors. If she’s an emotional sub, she can spiral out  in her thoughts and either forget or be afraid to tell you. Reach to her with the kind hand and help her out of the shadows.

Be assertive with your gentlemanly values and treat her like your own personal goddess. I guarantee you she’ll worship you like a god. Be romantic and return to chivalry. Be the reason why her divine femininity awakens and you’ll have a partner submissive for life. Be the gentleman Dom in all aspects in your life to her and ravish her like the wolf you know you can be.

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