Thoughts on Switching
Today’s discussion questions: Do you switch into a submissive role at any time? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you? If you are in a Domestic Discipline relationship, are there things that you do not maintain control over?
I can say wholeheartedly, I am not a switch. The whole concept is completely foreign to me. When confronted in a situation in my daily life in which I have lost control, I feel completely out of balance until control has been reestablished. I will wrestle with whatever event or demon is in front of me until I have it back under my thumb. I’m most definitely not a switch in the bedroom. I have at least tried it so I could see what it was about and let’s just say that was the first and last time. I find it hard to relinquish the reins in and out of the bedroom. That’s not to say I don’t appreciate my partner initiating. What man would? Nothing is sexier than you walking into the bedroom and there she is, struggling to get strapped into the restraints herself.
I struggle with the idea of switching on an emotional and mental level. The idea of giving up my control, relinquishing my Dominance is so aberrant it’s not even comprehensible to me. Even when I tried switching, I was topping from the bottom. My brain screams against it. It’s just not within myself to yield.
There are plenty of things I don’t want to have control over. Many of which pertain to the household. The household is her domain, as is the case in a Taken in Hand domestic discipline relationship. Now, I do want a vote when it comes to the interior and decorations. I’m not living in a house dedicated to Hello Kitty. I firmly believe in the traditional roles of male and female, as previously discussed. Is Taken in Hand for everybody? No and that’s okay. I think a lot of people romanticize it while being unable to either do it or commit to the discipline and structure. Domestic discipline is not for everyone.
The Wolf in the Night Sky 
This may sound odd, but I couldn’t submit to a Dom who was a switch. I need clear cut roles and consistency.
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It’s not odd or uncommon. From my time traveling the blogshere to participating in various communities, it is a common sentiment I’ve seen expressed.
It is these very clear cut roles and consistency I need to thrive and feel fulfilled with, nevermind the fact that yielding is so totally foreign to me. That is not to say that I can’t compromise with my domestic sub. She is my partner in all things.
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