Sex Isn’t Required for D/s

Did we blow your mind with this one? No, sexual activity (kinky or otherwise) isn’t required for a D/s relationship. Dominance and submission is about a power exchange, of receiving or giving up control. Sex is an added bonus. Sex is fun. Sex is not required. You may find, in your own D/s relationship, that sometimes the sex is almost vanilla but the rules of your relationship never falter. You may meet someone who fits you in a D/s sense but isn’t someone you can or want to have sex with.

Have you ever considered D/s without a sexual component? Would you be interested in something like it? How important is sex to your current or future D/s relationship? These are just a few things to think about if the concept is new to you.

Due to my Dominant philosophies and mindset, I can’t, won’t and wouldn’t consider a D/s dynamic without sex. As I’ve said many times before I don’t do causal play partners anymore, so what I need of a D/s relationship has many components that I would also need in a vanilla one. I have learned that I am heavily demisexual and without the emotional bonds in place, I have no interest in sex. I have also learned, thanks to TLMB, that if those bonds get damaged enough, I will revert to no interest in sex as well. I need a healthy, emotional bond.

Sex, for me, is intimately tied into my Dominant mindset and approach. I greatly value and admire the Taken in Hand domestic discipline. Her needs are my needs and I will ravish and satiate those needs and make them my own. Her body, my temple.

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