Subspace or top/dom space isn’t a guarantee every time you get kinky or in every D/s relationship. The feeling comes from the endorphins, dopamine, and other feel good chemicals our brain produces in a really intense scene. Submissives report feeling floaty while many Dominants say it gives them hyper focus. Science backs this up, too.
So today, this is more about learning what it is but also understanding you won’t always get there. For most of us that “space” is amazing, but it shouldn’t be the goal. Mutual pleasure, a release of emotions and tension, or the fulfillment of your desires are much better things to shoot for.
In reflection, I don’t think I’ve ever set out and created a scene designed to send my submissive to space. Everything I’ve ever done has been for enjoyment, in this regard, but never designed for actual space. I can and will learn my sub’s triggers to launch her into subspace, but that isn’t the goal for these activities, it’s a fortunate biproduct or reaction. Scenes and play, in my opinion, are for dirty, kinky fun. Yes, sometimes they’re for punishment too, but that’s not why I do what I do. Even as a sadist, I don’t want to be all wrath and punishment, in fact, it’s a side of D/s I really don’t enjoy, but will enforce.