Good Dominant or Bad Dominant? Depends on the Sub’s Needs

This was amazing to read. I don’t care if you’re new or experienced in the lifestyle. I learned something valuable reading this.

In weighing the frequently-asked question whether a Dominant can be considered “good” or “bad,” a submissive can find numerous articles all over the Internet that list desirable characteristics in a Dom, characteristics such as confidence, creativity, consistency, maturity, self-awareness, etc. Certainly, naturally dominant traits are advantages when assessing the quality of a Dominant. But I am going to take a different approach and say that that it is not necessarily a Dom’s character traits that are most important, but his or her motivation. Why does he or she want to control the sub? Or to be more precise, from what stage of development is the Dominant operating from, and does it correspond with the submissive’s stage?

I am going to take a different approach and say that that it is not necessarily a Dom’s character traits that are most important, but his or her motivation.

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