Healing and Prepping for What’s Next

Last two weeks have especially rough for me as we moved through the grief and healing process. I spent a lot of time in isolation, reflection, meditation and depression sleeping. I spent last week socializing more. Working more on both my new FB group and just talking to people like I used to do. Getting back into the saddle, as it were. Bunny and I emailed each other a few dozen times, but I remain resolute in that ending things is what is best for me. All that matters is that I wish her well, I hope she finds what she needs, happiness, and peace.

A lot of this week’s discussions have been centered around vetting, knowing what you want, being comfortable with it, and negotiations. I am still constantly blown away by how little people are vetting. I completely understand following the whimsy of your heart. Trust me. I really do. It has been something I’ve struggled with for a long time. Right? I’m a Sagittarius. Believe me, I understand whimsical. At the end of the day, however, it is still up to you to protect your heart. Nobody else will do it for you.

I do have some more ideas for lifestyle writing in the pipeline and this week I’m hoping to finish The New Topping Book. I’ve not had a lot of desire to read heavily with everything that’s been going on. I have been working on an extensive list of new vetting questions, this time targeted for Daddy Doms and that will be coming out soon.

I hope life is finding you well.

6 thoughts on “Healing and Prepping for What’s Next

  1. I was thinking about what you read about vetting. I think that many are so excited to finally meet someone who share their kink (or some part of it) that they completely forget that this doesn’t mean that two people are necessarily compatible. It is still important to actively choose your partner, considering their qualities. Smiles. Still, sometimes it is hard in the beginning. Lust has a way of blinding us to all else. I am glad to hear that you are keeping busy, my friend. Much love to you ❤ XOXO

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      • I’m not sure the way that I was framing it, I would consider this sub frenzy. I view sub frenzy as something that occurs after the dynamic is happening, and the sub is going crazy wanting new experiences. I think for many, prior to even meeting someone…they have so much longing to form a connection with someone, with anyone, that they don’t stop to consider what qualities might make someone a good match for them. For example, I need to be paired with someone who has some appreciation for creativity as that is a huge part of my life. Things like that, that are unique to each person. But so many people are incredibly lonely… and they are willing to overlook a lack of qualities in another that might make them more/less compatible. Just my thoughts 🙂

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      • It doesn’t have to just be sub frenzy. Doms can frenzy too. I mean it as frenzy in the case that the heart wants a thing so bad, they get so excited about it, potentially finding it, the skip or ignore things they shouldn’t. I’m guilty of it too. It has been known to happen.

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