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What Does Dominance Mean to You?
Whether you identify as a Dominant or a submissive, you may have some picture in your mind of what kind of person is a Dominant. What does dominance in a…
Keep readingWhat Does Submission Mean to You?
Does a submissive have certain behaviors? Do submissives do specific tasks? When you think of a submissive and submission, what thoughts come to mind? This is a harder one for…
Keep readingWhat Titles and Labels Do You Prefer?
Beyond the basic title of Dominant or submissive, are there other titles you prefer or are interested in exploring? Are there any that turn you off or don’t seem like…
Keep readingNegotiation is a Fancy Word for Talking
People read the word “negotiation” and imagine some sort of back and forth thing around a table in a formal way. It can be that, sure, but mostly it’s just…
Keep readingHow Do You Feel About Discipline and Punishment?
As a submissive, are you willing to allow a Dominant to discipline or punish you in your relationship? As a Dominant, are you willing to require discipline or give out…
Keep readingHow Will You Handle Conflict in D/s?
No matter how great a relationship may be, conflict, disagreements, and arguments will happen. How do you handle conflict now? How do you imagine handling it in D/s? What do…
Keep readingHow Do You Communicate?
The number one factor in whether your D/s relationship will succeed or fail is communication. Without it, you can’t build or keep trust, you can’t negotiate your kinks, and you…
Keep readingLet’s Talk Limits
Everyone has limits. Some are hard limits – things you refuse to do, and some are soft – you might do them under the right circumstances, with the right person,…
Keep readingWhat Does Consent Mean to You?
Most of us think of consent as a “Yes” or a “No” when it comes to sex. But really, whether in a vanilla or kinky relationship, there’s more to consent…
Keep readingWhat is Your Safeword?
Safewords are the words or phrases we use in a kinky scene or while having sex to stop everything. Some people don’t want a safeword. We strongly suggest using a safeword when…
Keep readingIntroducing D/s to Your Vanilla Relationship
Everyone is at a different point in life. Some people are married and happily kinky. Others are happily kinky but still single. And some find themselves thinking about kink while…
Keep readingWhat Kind of Rules Do You Want?
A Dominant may set the rules, but a submissive has to agree to them. Submissives may have an idea in their head what they need, but their Dominant might see…
Keep readingHow Do You Feel About Pain?
Let us be clear, in D/s, pain isn’t a requirement. You don’t have to be a masochist or a sadist to be D/s. But it’s always good to have an…
Keep readingMaintaining D/s When You’re Apart
Long distance relationships, trips without your partner, simply not living together – it all adds up to one thing: being D/s even when you’re not together. The solution you find…
Keep readingWhen Real Life Interferes With Your D/s
Yes, we know your D/s relationship is real life. Of course it is. But the rest of life sometimes interferes with the kinky shenanigans you’d rather be having. Illness, death,…
Keep readingFinding Your Local Community
The folks at Loving BDSM are big champions of getting out into the local kink community. It’s not always possible for everyone, and sometimes the local community isn’t the right…
Keep readingSex Isn’t Required for D/s
Did we blow your mind with this one? No, sexual activity (kinky or otherwise) isn’t required for a D/s relationship. Dominance and submission is about a power exchange, of receiving…
Keep readingWhat Do You Think About Orgasm Control?
When we last covered Loving BDSM’s 30 Days of D/s, we went over sex isn’t a requirement and today we’re talking about orgasms. Weird, huh? Every thing we do in…
Keep readingSexual Availability
In some D/s relationships (including ours), there is an agreement that the submissive will always be sexually available to their Dominant. While this can be a kinky, sexy aspect of…
Keep readingHave You Heard of Subfrenzy?
You might have never heard of subfrenzy and still experienced it whether as the submissive or a Dominant. It’s a moment that happens for new submissives or submissives in new…
Keep readingNot Everyone Will Go To Space
Subspace or top/dom space isn’t a guarantee every time you get kinky or in every D/s relationship. The feeling comes from the endorphins, dopamine, and other feel good chemicals our…
Keep readingDrop is Real
What goes up must come down. Subspace is the most common of the highs in D/s, but we know from experience that Dom or top space is real too. Which…
Keep readingLosing Your Dynamic
We talk a lot in the lifestyle about managing your dynamic, communicating with your partner, love languages, alternative love languages (a big favorite of mine), how to be a better…
Keep readingThe Internet Doesn’t Forget
Reblogging this because this particular piece of scum has came up twice this week in conversation. That’s twice too many in my book.
Keep readingThoughts on Self Dominance and Fixing Yourself
In counseling a dear friend of mine after the loss of her D/s, I found myself more than frustrated with her Dom. I won’t go into her personal details, but…
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Hello, friends. You may call me Storm. I am a Daddy Dom with fifteen years in the lifestyle. These featured essays are designed to help and sometimes educate this dark Wonderland we’ve found ourselves in. There’s coffee on the table. Stay as long as you’d like.
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