Sexual Availability

In some D/s relationships (including ours), there is an agreement that the submissive will always be sexually available to their Dominant. While this can be a kinky, sexy aspect of a relationship, it always requires a great deal of trust from the submissive and responsibility from the Dominant.

What do you think? Does it sound deliciously sexy? Or does it not sound appealing at all?

When I was a younger man, I would have left in heartbeat if sex wasn’t on the table. With age and a little bit of wisdom, I understand so much more than that young hornball ever did. You can accomplish so much more when you start with her mind.

If you don’t know a lot about the brain, I really suggest at least brushing up on what really drives us a people. I find it to be obscenely fascinating. There’s this chemical our pituitary gland releases called oxytocin and oxytocin acts as a messenger and impacts many behaviors including sexual arousal, recognition, trust, romantic attachment and even mother/infant bonding. Oxytocin has been called the ‘love hormone’ or ‘cuddle chemical’. We are chemically wired to crave oxytocin. Some of us get greater amounts released from the pituitary gland during orgasm than others. Some of us are able to get large amounts released by mere physical non-sexual intimacy such as cuddling or holding hands. Oxytocin can also promote monogamy. Which makes me want read a study on monogamists polygamists and the amounts of oxytocin released, but I’m starting to digress…

Sex, is important. It isn’t as important to me now as I near my 40s, but it was at one point a driving focus in my younger days. Sex can be primal or romantic, and should always be thorough and passionate. “What Daddy wants, Daddy gets” has been negotiated with Bunny. That being said, as she is Taken in Hand, her needs are just as important as my needs.

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